“WHATS THE PROGNOSIS?”
It never ceases to be amazed at people’s tolerance for misery in their life. They will suffer physical pain for years before doing anything about it. They will tolerate severe dental pain long before they see a dentist. They won’t be able to sit without agonizing back pain for years before finally agreeing to see a chiropractor.
For some, they are a certified and Federally approval girly-man!! They get in ASAP and deal with the problem. Why? Several reasons?
1. They HATE pain!
2. They are concerned with prolonged outcomes
5. Value their life and health
Guess what?? The same thing happens in relationships.
Here are some examples I’ve come across:
Couple: “My wife and I argue continually.”
Pastor: “Really? For how long?”
Couple: “10 years.”
“My husband and I haven’t spoken to each other in 3 years.” 😳
Couple: “We don’t have intimacy very often.”
Pastor: “When was the last time?”
Husband: “7 years ago.”
Really, more than not Its like going to a doctor and saying, “Doc, I have big bumps all over my body.” The Dr. Replies, dr.: “Those are called tumors.”
Patient: “Well, they hurt.”
Dr.: “When did you first notice them?”
Patient: “About 5 years ago.”
Dr: “And you are just now seeing a doctor??”
Patient: “Yes. So, what is my prognosis?”
Dr. “You are probably going to die.”
Couple: what’s my prognosis ( in my relationship)
Pastor: it’s probably gonna die
“But pastor, God could do a miracle!!”
Pastor: that’s true, but you’ve ignored it (the relationship and it’s problems) for so long, it would take a miracle
Outlook: The vast majority of times, couples come with serious problems that have gone on for years and years. How awful!! Who in the world tolerates misery for that long?!?
The little warning signs
The clamming up
The bickering and arguing
The lack of attention
The lack of motivation
If you and your wife aren’t talking, deal with it NOW. Stop the slow marriage death and cover up!
If you are angry with each other, deal with it NOW! You’re supposed to
Love each other
If you have stopped having sex, or withholding it in your marriage, there will be outcomes to pay for in your house. Stop blaming! deal with it NOW!!! Unless you don’t care if your marriage dies!
Then it will
And you will have died a little bit too…
Outlook: People suffer in unbearable situations for years and years and years and do absolutely nothing. Finally, they go in for counseling and expect some pastor or “expert” to unscramble the poisonous eggs of their miserable excuse of a marriage.
Stop enduring misery!! Things will NOT change if you do nothing. Deal with your crap right away – while people still care!
“Pastor, we have hated each other for 12 years. What is your prognosis?”
“Honestly? You are going to die.” You’ve ignored the remedy for far too long…It’s time to surrender to the Savior, only God can save you before he can save your marriage or dig you out of a whole.
That’s beauty of His Love.